The virtuous woman is rare commodity.  She does exist, but she must be found….discovered.  She is not the average woman.  She doesn’t think like the average woman.  She doesn’t talk like the average woman.  And, she doesn’t act like the average woman.   She is not easily found, because "it is a rare man who is capable of discerning her.”  (Mike Murdock)  She is priceless; therefore, she cannot be bought.  

Her husband trusts her, and feels safe about their relationship.  He doesn’t have to check up on her, because he knows she will do what she says she will do, and she will be where she says she will be.  He can trust her to consistently perform her agreed upon duties, so that he can consistently perform his agreed upon duties.  He can trust her to keep his confidence and not share their business with friends and family.  He can trust her to guide the house and help manage the children.  He can trust her with his money, his fears, his weaknesses and his failures.  She does not withhold sex, and is faithful sexually.  She is thrifty with their possessions so that there is no waste.  Nothing in their relationship or household spoils and becomes rotten. Nothing withers away.   

Solomon describes the virtuous woman as a "wife” who so rare that she must be "found” by her potential "husband.”  That means, she is not in the streets and clubs looking for him, because he would never look for her there.   Solomon wrote earlier in Proverbs 18:22 "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.”  The key word is "findeth.”  This implies that the man has to do the searching.  In order to search for her, he has to know what he is looking for.  Otherwise he wouldn’t know when he has found her.  As a virtuous woman, you can’t afford to be in "disguise.”  You can’t think, look, talk and act like a television reality show personality and be "found” a virtuous woman.  You must think, look, talk and act like a virtuous (strong) woman of God.  That doesn’t mean you can’t wear makeup, fix your hair & nails, dress in the latest fashions and enjoy life.  But, it does mean that you must be modest and discreet.  And, you must look, talk and act like the strong, confident woman of virtue that God created you to be.   (Repeat the GEM FOR TODAY throughout the day.)